How to know what to do with your life…

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“Hey I just wanted to ask you how you knew what you wanted to do with your life? I am a 24 year old female and have no idea what I want to do career wise. I am intelligent but don’t know what I am really good at and get frustrated easily working for other people. I have tried MLM and IM and really love it but haven’t made any money so get demotivated very quickly. I am confused.com so just wanted to know if you have any tips on how to change the path I am taking.”

I thought the reply was something that anyone can benefit from, regardless of age or occupation, so I’m posting it on my blog.  I suggest you share this- someone will appreciate it.

It’s a patented multi-step process that took me years to perfect, but I’ll share it with you, ’cause you seem cool.

Step 1: Wake up

Step 2: Stretch

Step 3: Look in the mirror (optional) – and ask yourself “What do I feel like doing today?”

Step 4: Do that

Step 5: Did you like it?

Step 6: If yes, figure out how to make money off of it.

The bottom line is that people are full of shit. The people that say you’re supposed to go to school, get a degree, then have a career for 40 years doing that… are all miserable. Most people hate their life. They go to work, go home, watch TV, go to sleep. *vomit*

You can make money doing ANYTHING. If you’ve studied marketing, then that’s wonderful… now apply it to something other than “how to make money online” — you can help a local business get traffic, help improve their copy and design, and voila… now they make more $ than before. Get testimonial & get percentages. Or take friends that make stuff, and help them sell it online. MLM’s a biatch… I despise it… but I know many multi-millionaires from it… I’m just pouty ’cause I didn’t make money when I tried it before knowing marketing.

Think about branding. Think about marketing. Think about PR. It’s all about spin. how do you position something.

Perfect example- http://www.littlemissmatched.com/

What happens?

Little girls start going to school and showing off their mismatched socks… it becomes cool. Now everyone wants mismatched socks. They have hundreds of prints. You buy… you get what they send you… you show it off to your friends, and y’all compare.

Show me someone else (other than Hanes or Gold-Toe) that’s made millions off of socks… and at $9 per sale.

Get it? THAT is marketing. Not just making sales letters.

Great skill to have… but it’s just a tool… like a pencil. You can do anything with it. You can draw, you can stab someone, you can keep a door open, you can use it as a hole-puncher, you can set it on fire, you can play pencil-peg (a game where you keep hitting each other’s pencil until one of them breaks — lame… but as more interesting than my 7th grade science teacher).

Using Copywriting you can increase someone’s sales, control people’s behavior, make yourself seem more personable, make someone’s day, make someone out to be the bad guy, help a cause… the possibilities are endless.

When people talk of “Hackers” they generally are misusing the term. I think a hacker is someone that understands how something- or pieces of something – works, and then find other uses for it. In this regard, I am a hacker. So… learn skills, combine them, and do what other people aren’t doing.

Might I point out something? You asked “how you knew what you wanted to do with your life?” and then went on to speak about having no idea what you want to do career wise. Are the two the same?

So often when I ask people about who they are, they tell me what they do.

Sad.

You are so much more. You are your hobbies, your passions, your interests, your friends, your experiences, your hopes, your dreams, your failures, your successes, and so much more.

If someone asks me what I do, I say that I travel the world completely based on who’s couch I’m crashing on next… meeting incredible people, seeing incredible sights, learning about myself and the world, taking great pictures, helping people, solving problems, and telling many bad jokes.

Their response is usually a small delay, followed by “Uhhh… how do you pay traveling like that?” “Oh.. that… well, it depends on what I’m in the mood for, but… I do business coaching, business consulting, life coaching, photography, videography, video editing, motion graphics, 3d animation, print design, copywriting, pay per click advertising, search engine optimization, and a bunch of other things… how much time do you have? Or… better yet, why don’t you tell me what the biggest challenge you have in your business or life is, and I’ll come up with the proper solution for you?” (For a few references check out http://CouchSurfingOri.com/services)

Did you notice the difference between who I am, and what I do?

The two overlap… sure… helping people requires skills… photography’s in both. Both depend on my creativity and voracious appetite for learning… but… we are so much more than our jobs!

Now then… As a child, what did you want to be when you grow up? What are the things that when you do them, the entire day flies by, and people have to remind you to take breaks and eat? What are the things that when you watch them on Television (or Youtube/Hulu / movies / etc) you are on the edge of your seat, and find your pupils slightly dilating, perhaps you are slightly licking your lips?

One last tip- meet as many people as you can. Ask them about what they are passionate about, and ask WHY they are interested in those things. What do they enjoy the most. What sucks. Why did they end up doing this, as compared to the things they’ve done before. What is involved in doing this thing? Can you watch? — Maybe Google / Youtube it when you get home…. You’ll quickly find out what fascinates you.

Remember… money is just a means to keep on living… the more you have, the more you can do, sure… but… people who work at McDonald’s are in it because they need money. I doubt they are really THAT passionate about feeding Type 2 Diabetes to the people, while inhaling grease particles, or that they love the uniform that much. Then you got your millionaires in high stress jobs that hate themselves, and have no time with their significant others.

Then… you got the people that don’t make that much money, but do what they love…let’s call them artists. Read the book Flow, and watch the movie or read the book The Peaceful Warrior.

I think I’m going to repurpose this answer into a blog post, because I think many people can benefit from the answer.

23 Responses to “How to know what to do with your life…”
  1. Edvania Says:

    THANK YOU. Ori you are so freaking awesome. After I read your email, there was a brainstorm in my brain. You are so right about doing what you are passionate about and I know what it is that I want to do now. Yeahhhh.

  2. Levonne Says:

    Well, Its taken my life to get it all straight. But if I had listened to myself when I was 20 and had gotten out of my way, I would have gotten there sooner. I was just searching for road trip adventure blogs and came upon yours. I'm driving cross country in August and will be couchsurfing for the first time. I hope you'll check out my blog about the adventure at http://www.levonnegaddy.com/2011/07/were-going-ho

  3. Roy Marvelous Says:

    Great post Ori. What job you do does not define who you are! I'm not rich but my lifestyle allows me to travel the world and meet interesting people. And that's what I'm passionate about.

  4. Koko Says:

    Last year I noticed something about myself – I almost never ask someone what they do for a living. I have some really good friends that I see quite regularly and I have NO IDEA how they make their money! It's not important to me, as I don't think it has anything to do with WHO that person is. Those that are passionate about their jobs will talk about them whether you ask or not, and that job becomes part of who they are because of their passion. Those that hate their jobs will bitch and whine about them whether you ask or not, and that job sadly becomes part of who they are because they are so negatively affected by it. Those that go to work, do their job and forget about it once they leave won't talk about work, because it doesn't define them in any way. There's no need to ask the question, you'll figure it out eventually.

    I've recently found a way to make money doing something I love. It's a great feeling!

    Oh, and as for couchsurfing – I probably wouldn't be exaggerating too much by saying it saved my life. Get on it people!

  5. DebeBloom Says:

    There's a piece of me that would want to do exactly what you're doing…but alas, responsibilities, responsibilities. Your message of doing what you love to do, knowing who you are to do it…awesome. Great no-nonsense post, Ori.

  6. Palyn Peterson Says:

    Sage advice, my friend. \,,/

  7. Brendan Wenzel Says:

    Knowing my passions, I’m still trying to figure out how to make them into income producers. It’s tough, but I’m sure if I keep on plugging away that I’ll eventually find that place of zen in my life.

  8. Simon Says:

    Great refreshing post. Totally agree with your perspective.

  9. Robert Says:

    I met Ori a long time ago (3 or 4 years now), and he basically coached me to where I am today…Marketing for an auto repair chain. I love doing what I do, still have a boss, but it is soo much better than where I was when I met Ori. My point is that he is right, and it was really easy to do, once I took action that is. Also Ori, I am sending this to my mom. Maybe it will help her understand why I refuse to "get a job." lol

  10. Michael S. Copeland Says:

    Awesome Ori. I'm going to share this with my lists, my tweeps and on Facebook. I have been making money online for a while now but I wasn't passionate about it. What I really wanted to do was focus on helping small businesses. I truly believe it is the small businesses and owners who will get us out of the recession.
    They need so much help! Some of them are on the verge of failing. They're struggling to keep the lights on or keep an employee. They need help. I have even helped people out for free, because I'm passionate about my community and I'm helping not only the business owner get new clients or keep old ones, but I'm helping their employees pay their rent, their daycare, their medical bills.
    I realize that free doesn't pay my bills, but it pays me in other ways. knowing this place is still there because I helped them, or that person has that job because I helped their boss… That's rewarding, even moreso than monetarily.

  11. Andrew Ramirez Says:

    Ori, this is such a great post! I spent over 30 years of my life following someone else's dream of what my life should be. I completed the traditional education, got a corporate job, got the house with the white picket fence, 2.5 kids, a dog… From the outside looking in, you could say that I had it made.

    On the inside though, an entirely different story. I had deep sensation of dissatisfaction. I yearned for more meaning. I longed for passion. I had been motivated for so long for "success" but I was chasing a ghost that dressed in all things external, material…

    When I started to look within, to listen to the little voice, is when it all started to change.

    While I still have my corporate gig, and make the most of it, I also have my "other" things that keep me satisfied. No money (yet), but great satisfaction.

    I think Jim Rohn said it best when he said "work full time on your living and part time on your fortune." Your message mirrors these words of wisdom.

    Thanks for the post.

    Andrew.

  12. couchsurfingori Says:

    Thanks for the kind words Michael.
    I too do things for people for free quite often. I think it's a matter of principle, and while my parents don't always understand why I'd do consulting, or make a website, or get someone tickets to something with nothing in return… it's all about people and relationships, and fun, and doing the right thing…. and in the end, it all came back around– when I did launch my business that made me money online, it was because I helped so many people over time that things went well, and that business launched successfully. My parents just got to see an inbox full of recipts… but each one of those recipts is a person. Since my product is a WordPress training, I'm getting the stories from the clients — it's helping people leave jobs they hate, or make up for jobs they've lost, or make their existing jobs more rewarding. The principles I covered in this post ("How to know what to do with your life…") are ones that are at the core of everything I do. I think everything is interconnected though…. your online making skills are what many of these business owners need to learn. So many people know nothing of marketing (on or off line) — so … worlds colide :)

  13. couchsurfingori Says:

    Wait till you see my next article Robert….. my parents have known I don't do "jobs" – but now that I launched an online business, they really got to see that maybe my being stubborn was good, 'cause I was right… and if I listened to them, I wouldn't've finished this. The bottom line is… other people can't see your vision. You can. And… you shouldn't have to justify yourself to anyone. Even family. Parents are definitely a sore-spot for me– in the end, they just want to know that you're taken care of… that if they're not around, that you'll be fine. The other thing to consider is that you're artistic– you use more right brain, believe in more conceptual principles… your mom is a lot more conservative and left brained. Concepts such as freedom, and creativity are not as important to her, and it's hard for her to see through your eyes. Ask me how I know :) I've met your mom. She's cool, and loves you, and you've given her tons of grief (I think I got you beat in amount of grief). Not that you need to be vengeful of/to your mom, but they say that the best revenge is success. I'm borrowing from that phrase. When (not if) you succeed with your own vision, and the needs that your mother is looking for you to have met (probably measured in financial success), and they are met through your approach…. your mom will be happy for you. If this article helps that process — awesome! :)

  14. couchsurfingori Says:

    Hey Andrew. Thanks for the kind words. Wow, I haven't spent 30 years doing much of anything…. I turn 35 in December. I've always been stubborn to pursue my passions… even when they hadn't made me much money. My internal self would cause a lot of grief when I was at a gig I hated. As a couch surfer, I've gotten rid of more and more of my belongings, and I'm much happier than I've ever been. I have stuff – clothes, laptop, harddrives, camera, ukulele, guitar. But it's following my passions that has attracted the great people in my life, which were instrumental to any success around my passion.

    Jim Rohn definitely had a lot of wisdom.

  15. deeroni2 Says:

    Love this. Thank you for responding to the question. I know many people are searching for the same answers. You made it so clear. The humor was great!!

  16. Jessy Says:

    Thank you for this, it really opened my eyes. I'm Dutch girl from 17 years old who just finished high school. At the moment I really feel the pressure to study. And yes I do want to study, but because I'm smart people expect from me to become for doctor, lawyer, or to work for a bank. I already know that I'm not going to be happy with these jobs. It feels like it is all worked out for me: study university, get a good job, work very hard, get married, have children and that's it. I don't want to make a career, I just want to have enough money to enjoy my life. What I notice when I talk to older people is that they are living to work and not work to live. They act that it is the most important thing, but it isn't. Family, friends,and your passions are much more important. I don't want to end up in a big house with an expensive car feeling bored and unhappy, I want to travel, meet people, live in different places and enjoy my job. After reading you post and some comments, I know I will regret it if I start at the university. I want to take a gap year and travel, meet people and try to discover what I really want.
    I really like this quote: find what it is what makes you happy and who it is that makes you happy and you're set :)

  17. couchsurfingori Says:

    I think humor is the part of life that makes it worth living. When things don't go as planned, it can seem horrible if there's no sense of humor. If there is one, then you can get through ANYTHING.

  18. couchsurfingori Says:

    Congrats on making that decision. Travel will definitely open your mind. You can actually make plenty of money while traveling. I have an upcoming blog-post about this… I worked hard this year and started an online business that now brings me money in automatically. Which made my parents pretty happy– where before, they were prety concerned about me and money. So, yeah… Study… but that doesn't have to mean you study at a university. You can study on YouTube, or there are even hundreds of top universities that give out their content absolutely free. The only thing you don't get is a degree. For many jobs and businesses, nobody cares if you have a degree or not…. just if you're smart, and can do what you say you can. In fact… a ton of people with degrees are getting laid off. The most important thing to learn though is what makes you happy. So, study everything you can– different topics — and travel… meet people… these are the ways to learn about life, the world, and yourself. Then you can make much better decisions — also… make sure to read this one: <a href="http://www.couchsurfingori.com/blog/you-can-get-a-big-st…” target=”_blank”>www.couchsurfingori.com/blog/you-can-get-a-big-st…

  19. marcbreton Says:

    I loved this article. I think the same thing. I have one problem though. i am also turning 35 years old. it took me 5 years to decide to change m life. I am now making money with my sites and I am traveling the world. I feel young inside and even look young… people think I am 26 or something…mm perfect… I have some grey hair ahhhhh but it makes me more charming manybe… Anyhow, how do you respond to people who tell you that you are too old. I mean you will tell me that you do not care…but for example in couchsurfing people will look at you in a strange way if you are 35 years…what are you doing here? a 24 years old girl told me one time. I am just afraid that it will be more difficult to meet people… what do you thing?

  20. JennHunter Says:

    Ori, love how you cut through the fluff. Reading your posts and emails always makes me think, and inspires me to think bigger and not settle. You are surreal :)

  21. ClaraBonnet Says:

    For me it is simple i like travelling. So i created a travel agency.. but not any travel agency . A very special one.That lets me to be driver, tour guide, cook, learn arabic , languages eing one of my firs passionm i get to do everything that i like, and i have ajob and thus make my family proud and although it will NOT make me multimillionaire, it will make me happy and contentt and satisfied and that,s priceless

  22. ClaraBonnet Says:

    the link to it if you like to pass by … http://www.wix.com/clarabesque/south-jordan-exper

  23. monolittle Says:

    Life is always miserable when your heart is not into  doing what everyone says is the responsible thing. Sometimes living your life for others is more of a silent killer for you. Sooner or later you there is  a decision to make, it is not an easy one but only you know your heart and your circumstance. No matter what life throws at you, you must keep believing in what you envision for yourself.

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