A couchsurer’s view on “Stuff” (worldly posessions)

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CouchSurfingOri surrounded by STUFF at Cathedral of Junk in Austin, TX

CouchSurfingOri surrounded by STUFF at Cathedral of Junk in Austin, TX

Stuff!  We all have it! The thing is that it means different things to different people.  Some people think that we are nothing more than what stuff we’ve accumulated.

Have you ever been to soeone’s house that looks like a museum? Shelves upon shelves of little crystal figurines, and nice china, and walls of DVDs, and shelves full of books, and tons of walk-in closets, etc… ?

I wonder if they actually enjoy their stuff.  I wonder if they eat on that fine china… I wonder if they watch every movie.. I wonder if they read all their books.

You see, I have a lot of stuff too.  We all do!  But, do we actually use it after the first few weeks?  It’s a shiny object, and my marketer friends probably made the ad that made you want it…. but after you spent your money, or were gifted it, you probably got bored with it.  Clearly, there’s exceptions– computers, cell phones, televisions, but even those gather dust after we find a shiny new model.  The Ipod got replaced by the Ipod Nano, which got replaced by the Iphone / Touch – which got replaced by the Iphone 3G, which got replaced by the Iphone 3GS.

What’s my point?  I just realized that a lot of my stuff I have because people think I should have it.  What do I mean? I guess I should tell you my big plans first.

(If you’re in a hurry, just scroll to the video at the bottom)

I’m going to Austin, Texas.  I want to make it my headquarters.  Why Austin?  I’ve never been there before this year.

In a very short time I met a ton of amazing people.  Many funny, laid back individuals, and many entrepreneurialy minded individuals.  I’m a workaholic, so I enjoy those people.  I even have awesome clients there like Tito’s Vodka and Perry Belcher.  It’s the only city that I know of that had a homeless transvestite run for mayor, and take 3rd place! Their slogan is “Keep Austin Weird” – what’s not to like about a place like that?  Oh yeah… the BBQ is damn good too!

Now let’s rewind to Atlanta. I have a place that I bought in 2007.  It’s beautiful, near everything, but feels like it’s in the middle of nowhere, as it is in the middle of a national park.

I have a bunch of stuff there from when I was living there for a portion of 2008.  I tried to rent it out in 2007, and that’s how I met Angela… Boy, do I have a lot of incredible stories and memories from her., and it all began with her wanting to rent my place.  But my place was never rented out, and I moved my stuff there- an awesome bed, lots of clothes, bookshelves books, magazines, dishes, appliances, a tv or 2, some couches, etc..

I didn’t rent it out when I got back on the road.  I made excuses:

“I don’t want to put my stuff in storage.  I finally got it where I want it”

“I don’t want people messing with my stuff”

*sigh* reminds me of Fight Club, when Ed Norton talks about how he was finally complete.  He finally had the perfect collection of stuff…. Well.. here’s some great quotes from Fight Club:

  • “The things you own end up owning you”
  • “I say never be complete, I say never be perfect”
  • “It’s only after you’ve lost everything, that you’re free to do anything”
  • “We are consumers”
  • “Look, nobody takes this more seriously than me. That condo was my life, okay? I loved every stick of furniture in that place. That was not just a bunch of stuff that got destroyed, it was ME!”

Clearly, I’m being selective in my quotes from Fight Club… it’s like reports in the news (*yawn*) — research can be done to prove anything… depends who funded the research, ya know? I’m sure my older brother can tell you why having an organized home is the best thing in the world, but I agree with Tyler Durden– the stuff you own ends up owning you.

My journeys have been slightly hampered because I’m concerned about my place.  I gotta deal with my neighbor and his sister coming in here and stealing my shelves, using my balcony as their storage shed / wood shop.  I get to check my voicemail after Burning Man (’07) and have a message that my downstairs neighbor has been flooded due to a burst pipe (Which thankfully was able to be fixed from her ceiling, rather than my floor).  I think about my stuff.

Tim Ferriss talks about stuff in his amazing book, The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich (I HIGHLY recommend this book by the way! VERY Highly!). Get rid of your stuff, show up at a new place with just enough clothes to last you the week, and get new stuff there if you need it.  Sell your car. Stop renting your apartment. Give away, or loan away your stuff.  The amount you pay for rent, insurance, utilities, and gas right now is enough for you to live like royalty in some other countries.

An awesome traveler that I discovered thanks to my awesome readers (Thanks Heidi) is Colin Wright.  Colin is a digital nomad like me, but unlike me, he hits a different country every four months!  I could get used to that idea.  In this awesome blog post, he talks about how he stripped his belongings to 72 items.

So, I’m renting out my place.  I got this realtor (who is so amazingly beautiful- but I didn’t find that out till she got here… in case you were thinking that I would hire someone based on that.  Though… I suppose that could help get people to part with their money), who’ll be showing my place.  I want to have my place available to show by the 16th- which is my birthday.  I want to be in Austin on my birthday. Lots of amazing people that I’d really enjoy celebrating with.

In order to show my place, I need to have it empty.  Right now, it is not.  I just sold my most amazingly comfortable couches (it’s only appropriate that CouchSurfingOri would have the best couches-  though I do have to credit Angela for finding them) for $400, and my 55″ Sony Grand Wega for $400, and my Epson R1800 Printer for $300 (It was going to be $400, but it was for a good friend’s birthday).  Sweet– gas money for the trip to Austin.  I still have a bed, a nice L-shaped glass table, and the most comfortable and expensive office chair I’ve ever bought ($350– it’s got all this memory foam… I spend 20 hours a day in it sometimes, with no problem), bedding, dishes, appliances, magazines, marketing newsletters, and more…

I was on the phone with my parents the other night, and mom wanted to know what I’m doing with that stuff.  *shrug* Guess I’m leaving it behind, donating it, throwing it away, or leaving it with the condo.

Mom was shocked, “But that’s a fortune worth of stuff! The bed is like $800, the bedding cost a bunch, all those clothes, all those dishes…. Why don’t you put the  bed in that storage closet?”

I explained to her that it’s just stuff.  It’s holding me from traveling.  I don’t want to store any of it.  I’ll take with me what I can fit in my car, and nothing else. I clearly don’t care about my stuff that much, as I haven’t been back to visit it very often.

When I am here, I don’t really use my stuff (except my awesome office chair, and my bed).  I can get new stuff. What’s important to me is my computer and camera.  Other than that, IU can live out of a  car if I need. But, it’s not about having or not having stuff…

I realized that a lot of the stuff that I have, I have because people thought I should.  I have in Florida some incredibly gorgeous drapes.  They are this reflective green material that breaks up light into these beautiful refractions.  When people came over, they always commented on it.  Yeah.. that made me feel kind of nice, but I didn’t really care.  They were a birthday present from my family, with my older brother heading up the effort.

It took many hours of searching many stores to find the right material, to find the right look, measure the stuff, install it, etc… If my family wasn’t encouraging me to do it, I wouldn’t have drapes.  And now they are in storage… $1,000 of beautiful fabric, just sitting there in a big tupperware container.  All that effort of finding the right drapes… sitting in storage.

Do I miss them? Do I wish I had those lovely drapes here in Atlanta? No!  Hell no!  I don’t think about them one bit (except of course to tell you about “stuff”).  I’m not into Feng Shui, and I’m not into stuff.  I have a lot of it, and I’m even a pack rat.  But, it’s all going away now.

I started telling my friend Craig about it, and this video really sumarizes my thoughts. (final thoughts written below video)

To summarize- I  am getting rid of all my stuff by next Tuesday.  Some I’m giving away.  Some I’m selling.  Some I’m leaving.  It’s just stuff.  I don’t need it.  I may get a storage unit sometime in the future… or more likely, leave some stuff at someone’s house.  My big goal is to travel the world.

There’s so much amazing stuff out there! Active volcanoes, tribes that don’t have cell phones, and still survive by gathering berries!  Giant fjords (not to be confused with cjhevies)! Cliffs to jump off of, animals to photograph, cultures to experience.

In the United States, a majority of people have not left the country.  Many have not left their state, and I’ve even heard of people that have not left their city or town (I’m not joking for once).  You learn about yourself and the world when you travel.  You meet amazing people, and you grow.

I’m from Israel for those who don’t know.  I’ve had to travel to get here to the USA, and I’ve had to deal with it… learn that other language and culture.  I’ve traveled all over the USA, and I’ve met people that I never dreamt I would.  I’ve had experiences that are not in the tourist guides, and THAT is the “STUFF” that I keep– my experiences.  My experiences are the accumulation of stuff that I let define me.  They are what I collect via memories, blog, journal, videos, and photos.

They are stuff that I cand share, and it only gets better, rather than chipped, broken, or dusty (sorry fans of fancy china).  I’m told by many how I inspire them, and I’m grateful for that…. but I’m just chasing my dream.  It’s fuzzy like a dream– I know I want to visit more countries (and my passport just got renewed!), experience what’s out there, and help as many people along the way as I can. It is because of THAT that I’ve met so many amazing people, and likeminded people… not because of stuff that I own.

Goodbye stuff! Hello adventure!

Take inventory of your stuff- how much of it do you have because you really want it?  Do you want it or need it still, or is it the human fear of loss that’s making you take up valueable space with it?  You can probably sell a ton of it, or give it away to make someone’s day/year.  Maybe you need to get rid of it all, and go on a nice self-discovery trip?

34 Responses to “A couchsurer’s view on “Stuff” (worldly posessions)”
  1. blancastella Says:

    Yes..very well put..it's all stuff..But I can't part with my books, and I kind of like the idea of those green drapes refracting light hanging near my window;) One of my best friends just moved from a 3000 sq. ft house to a 1200 sq. ft. apartment with a roommate. She spent so much time renovating that house with her husband, who then suddenly passed away.(56 yrs young!)….and all she was left was the memories of him…which was more important than all her "stuff". I admire her for what she just did…although hard..she is definitely free-er…and still sad from her greatest loss. So go for it…go for your adventure! Life is too short. Enjoy it.

  2. ElizabethPW Says:

    Sometimes you freak me out, Ori. That's exactly what I'm thinking about right now, sitting here in this house full of all this stuff that I was "supposed" to get for this life I was "supposed" to have. And a life that I'm *totally* opt-ing out of.When I move out in a few weeks, I'm taking around 1% of this stuff. I'm taking my bed (and my daughter's bed), bookshelves, my desk & chair, and two other nice chairs. And a few boxes of books. Clothes. About 5% of my daughter's toys. And my computers. That's about it. Thank god. BTW, a friend asked me recently, if your house was burning down, and your entire family/cat was safe, besides your computer, what would you take?Me: Nothing. And, I would be relieved.

  3. couchsurfingori Says:

    Hmmmm… you've got a great point, and something I forgot to mention — with the advent of the digital age, I have my memories and books and movies with me…. in digital form. Jpg, pdf, mp4… the technologies change, and books are not the same on the computer… but they are getting there rapidly (Just today Mashable released a piece about the competition for Tablets (http://mashable.com/2009/12/10/age-of-the-table….. which will probably wipe out the E-Reader market, and be the saviors of the publishing industry). For the knowledge that they carry, I have thousands of books with me on a harddrive. I do have a few autographed books that I am taking with me as well, as they are souveniers of great people I've met. I just go stir crazy, now that I started adventuring… So, I don't want stuff. In fact… want some fancy green shimmery drapes? :)

  4. couchsurfingori Says:

    Computer, external harddrives, camera, and shelf… oh wait a minute! :p

  5. blancastella Says:

    Sure…I'll take the shimmy because it will remind me every day of you out there adventuring the world…which will then motivate me to take on some adventure in the near future.. So you see..those drapes will serve a purpose to bring some extra smiles and motivation. Who would have thought a silly drape can do that?;)

  6. Allison Nazarian Says:

    Ori, EPW sent me here today.Loving your view on stuff. Mostly because mine is SO opposite and two of my absolute fave people (you and EPW) are teaching me so much.I am always responsible and having the right stuff and it does make me happy…..but it can be overwhelming. (I can't help but say as I read this, I think of how your mom and I could drive up to Atlanta and bring the stuff back to Boca, so it doesn't go to HEAVEN FORBID waste!!!)I love you and can't wait for this next chapter. I expect quarterly visits to Boca, still, and expect as well in 2010 that my sense of adventure will be further Ori-ized.Love you Motek,Alli

  7. couchsurfingori Says:

    The funny thing is… they'll remind you of me, inspire you to take on adventures, which will then force you to get rid of your stuff– and the drapes. So, I suppose they'll be a perpetual adventure creator :)

  8. Allison Nazarian Says:

    Did we already ask Ori if we can couchsurf w him for SXSW in March?

  9. ElizabethPW Says:

    Not yet. I was waiting for him to get a couch in Austin first.

  10. couchsurfingori Says:

    I knew it! You and my older bro would get along well :) You just got your papasan, and it made you very happy. It was momentous actually, as it's been desired for so long, and blown off for so many people… but now you have it. My desire is for people to be happy (glad you enjoyed the bottle of Tito's Handmade Vodka — one way to be happy – that I left you when I was couch surfing there :) ). I think that living my lifestyle would freak you out… and just like I'm great friends with you, I'm also friends with some staunch republicans. The world is filled with diversity, but I suspect that if you were to have something happen to all your stuff (except laptop/mp3 player/photos/family/dog), you'd come out just fine. In fact, I'd bet something cool would happen- maybe a relocation or rebuilding. Nothing will happen, so we'll never know… but I do notice that you're taking more trips lately. We all adventure in the ways that work for us. You're welcome to join in on all my adventures…. but, I don't know about Quarterly Visits to Boca….. you may have to fly out, and join in some exotic locations. We're still overdue for some skydiving… I hear Arizona's a nice place to jump out of a hot air baloon (Thanks Peter Shankman!)

  11. couchsurfingori Says:

    I knew it! You and my older bro would get along well :) You just got your papasan, and it made you very happy. It was momentous actually, as it's been desired for so long, and blown off for so many people… but now you have it. My desire is for people to be happy (glad you enjoyed the bottle of Tito's Handmade Vodka — one way to be happy – that I left you when I was couch surfing there :) ). I think that living my lifestyle would freak you out… and just like I'm great friends with you, I'm also friends with some staunch republicans. The world is filled with diversity, but I suspect that if you were to have something happen to all your stuff (except laptop/mp3 player/photos/family/dog), you'd come out just fine. In fact, I'd bet something cool would happen- maybe a relocation or rebuilding. Nothing will happen, so we'll never know… but I do notice that you're taking more trips lately. We all adventure in the ways that work for us. You're welcome to join in on all my adventures…. but, I don't know about Quarterly Visits to Boca….. you may have to fly out, and join in some exotic locations. We're still overdue for some skydiving… I hear Arizona's a nice place to jump out of a hot air baloon (Thanks Peter Shankman!)

  12. couchsurfingori Says:

    Got oodles of couches in the 512! Y'all can definitely crash there :)

  13. Allison Nazarian Says:

    Funny your comment makes me both smile and almost pee my pants. The smile part is obvious. (BTW remind me to tell you or have EPW tell you what happened to the Titos — FINALLY AFTER 7 months — I mean who has good vodka untouched for that long?! Oh right — me!). Smile because I love my chair. And you remembered it. Smile because I love that you noticed I have been travelling. That IS part of the new Allison — I NEVER left home before. And 2010, even more. Let's do the skydiving in AZ — we can stay w/Jeff. The scary part is knowing actually that part of my next step is letting go of what's safe (which is all stuff is — something we think is safe). I'm about to take a real jump, off a cliff, and it is awesome and scary and did I say awesome!#neveradullmoment!Love Alli

  14. Allison Nazarian Says:

    Yay

  15. Jane Says:

    epw, I agree in the case of fire, though I'd want to get the old family photos, too. My last grandparent died 20 years ago and my dad a couple of years ago. I enjoy looking at photos of them when they were young. But other than that yeah relieved. :-) If I was moving I'd have to add my favorite books that I've read over and over and still read them, but I'd definitely do some weeding.

  16. couchsurfingori Says:

    #babysteps. Of course I notice! You've been to Vegas lately more than many gambling addicts! I can recite what goes on in your life…. I keep track of my friends, and especially the people I couchsurf with :) It's fun to watch, as you evolve. Tattoo, papasan, karaoke (videos coming), and other small destructions to your comfort zone…. next thing you know, you'll have a "stuff" bonfire, and go travel the world :)

  17. ElizabethPW Says:

    Skydiving in AZ. #youhavenowsignedacontract

  18. couchsurfingori Says:

    You can start now Jane– make archival scans of all your old photos. This is something we're working on in my family too…. so that we all have each other's photo albums, films, home movies, etc… if anything happens to our stuff, life will go on, and memories will not be lost. Why wait for a fire?

  19. couchsurfingori Says:

    http://vimeo.com/7387870 <– Arizona, Peter Shankman's #200

  20. ElizabethPW Says:

    I also love my books that I read over and over again, they are like old friends. But really, those super-special books would fill less than one box. Good point Ori re the photos. I have lots of photos that are pre-digital camera that needs to be archived.

  21. Carrie Roberts Says:

    Between your post and hoarders makes me want to free myself from the bondage of stuff. In a fire I wouldn't even take my computer, just my external hard drives and my kids, nothing else.Having a lot of "stuff" makes me feel very stuck and unproductive.

  22. couchsurfingori Says:

    Dang! I TOTALLY forgot that aspect of stuff! In this case I mean documents (non-digital)- I can't find my desk sometimes…. or my floor…. it's a lot easier to be neat and organized if you've got nothing to make a mess with :)

  23. Allison Nazarian Says:

    I'm in and it is ON.

  24. Colin Wright Says:

    Hey thanks for the mention, brother!I've been meaning to get more into Couchsurfing now that I'm traveling more, and though I hosted a few people when I was living in LA I haven't yet officially CS'd at someone else's pad. This must be remedied.Oh! And since you're in the process of reducing your number of possessions, you might consider having a Shred Party. This is something that my ex and I did before we left LA and went out separate ways, and it was super therapeutic. More info (and a video of the process) here: http://exilelifestyle.com/minimalism/throw-shre…..Checking out some of your archives as we speak. Keep up the good work, Ori!

  25. shawnacevraini Says:

    We all need to do this! It's a big (and scary) step! I truly believe that the world would be a much better place if everyone would have less STUFF!We've been talking about this a lot in our house for the past year or so. You inspire me to try harder to reach my minimalist goal! Thanks!I wrote about my thoughts on this at: http://cevraini.wordpress.com/2009/10/04/how-mu…..

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  27. Mike Stenger Says:

    I'm totally with you bro! Camera, well video camera at least, computer, desk, chair, and that's about all I TRULY n eed. Great insight dude and good luck on the move :-)

  28. Brendan Wenzel Says:

    I don't know if I told you or not, but when I moved out to California the second time, I traveled with a carry-on suitcase, a guitar and a laptop bag. Everything else that I owned was left in a single plastic container in an attic of a family member. Whatever didn't fit was either sold or given away. Even sold my car because it was an extra thing that I didn't need. Got a ton more to say about this so I think I will make a blog post on my site to respond instead of making this an extremely long comment. Peace and Love Brotha!

  29. Mike Stenger Says:

    I'm totally with you bro! Camera, well video camera at least, computer, desk, chair, and that's about all I TRULY n eed. Great insight dude and good luck on the move :-)

  30. Brendan Wenzel Says:

    I don't know if I told you or not, but when I moved out to California the second time, I traveled with a carry-on suitcase, a guitar and a laptop bag. Everything else that I owned was left in a single plastic container in an attic of a family member. Whatever didn't fit was either sold or given away. Even sold my car because it was an extra thing that I didn't need. Got a ton more to say about this so I think I will make a blog post on my site to respond instead of making this an extremely long comment. Peace and Love Brotha!

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  32. blancastella Says:

    Who was it that said in Lion King or something…. the Circle of Life… Life is a Circle. We came into this world with nothing…and will leave just the same- nada….hmmm…these drapes are causing deep thoughts.

  33. blancastella Says:

    Who was it that said in Lion King or something…. the Circle of Life… Life is a Circle. We came into this world with nothing…and will leave just the same- nada….hmmm…these drapes are causing deep thoughts.

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